The hardest part for me is striking a balance between detachment and pursuit. My wife and I are still very friendly toward each other so I am using my GaL techniques to detach but also trying to be as positive and supportive as I can. For example, every morning I ask my wife (or txt her if she's still sleeping when I leave for work):
"How can I make your day better?"
I feel like this is a very direct question and requires a direct response from her. I've been doing it consistently for the past 9 days. Some of the responses have been the single word, "Nothing." Some have been "Nothing, thanks for asking." One day I got, "Thanks for asking. I can't think of anything right now. Have a great day!" Today I got "I'll let you know" with a "hmmmm" emoticon.
I am going to be very blunt and tell you that you must stop sending her that text every day. Don't send it at all. It puts emotional pressure on her. It is a turnoff to a woman who is not feeling the love. The woman left you to get away from you! And you are chasing her. You might as well say, "How may this measly servant serve you today, my queen"? That's just not attractive to a woman.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
