Your h hasn't been gone that long. Seven months is a drop in the bucket when it comes to a spouse walking out the door. I do understand how you feel especially w/the holidays approaching. It's not easy, but you've got to feel those emotions and let them go. So, pick yourself up, pull up your big girl panties and start making some new traditions for the holidays. Go visit family and friends and if you don't have any in the immediate area, plan to serve up meals at the local shelter. Go visit people in the nursing home or in the hospital who do not have family around during the holidays. Just remember, you are the only one that can control your life and if you choose to sit on the pity pot for a long time, well, life will not get any better. Take back your life and start doing things that make you happy.
You don't know what the future holds for you and your family. Your h may opt to return or he may opt to completely walk away, but whatever happens...you need to get stronger, more independent and wiser. There is always hope and the more positive you become, the more doors that will open for you. The world is ready to open its arms and embrace you, but you've got to take one step at a time and stay positive.
Take back your power and start walking forward. Let me ask you this question...what would you do if your h were in a coma? Think about that question and I'd like to hear what you would do and how would you handle the situation.
Feel those emotions and release them and then grab those big girl panties and pull them up and get moving. I know you can do this! One step at a time, one day at a time.
