This much I know is true

[Cadet]

In my opinion, there should be no such thing as an 'amicable' divorce when kids are involved.

I did not have an amicable divorce.

I fought it tooth and nail.
In retrospect I saw that it was a form of pursuit for me
and likely pushed her further away,
although that would likely have happened either way.

I am now coming up on 5 years post divorce.
This past summer my son got married and both my kids had
graduations for post graduate degrees.

Me and the ex tolerated each other,
probably for the sake of the kids,
now we are back to no contact.

I am not sure that this is better or worse.

I am finally healing and moving forward with my life.
My kids will be stuck between parents for ever.
That does not go away.
My father is now divorced for 25 years,
although he has now passed away I am still stuck
with those consequences.

I guess all we can do is keep making the best choices
with the cards we are dealt.
Stand or Fold.

Neither one might be right or wrong.