I dont have any solid advice, as I'm in the same boat as you Molly. It feels like I'll never get there and that my husband is gone for sure.
I always try to read the success stories for encouragement though. Those people didnt have any less of a hopeless situation, and their spouses came back.
A lot of the time they're equally scared or emotional, but hiding it. They'll say crazy things and it changes every day. I've noticed this a lot with my husband. His plan changes every day. He doesnt know wtf he wants.
Married for seven years
1 two-year-old boy
BD: 09/16/2016
Separated in different states due to military/school