I have tried to explain I would separate myself inside the house but she says that it doesn't even feel like there is space or separation if we are in the same house. I also mentioned that hopefully I will get the job on Monday and I will be gone a lot on top of that. Still wants complete separation.
A long the way, she did downgrade from divorce to separation. If she was intent on divorce, then I think the talk with my 5D would be appropriate. But I feel like if she just needs some space and assuming DB works, then my 5D went thru this traumatic experience for nothing.
Dont assume that just because you separate "in-house" that it will be easier.
I liken it this way: imagine you mowed the lawn and watched it grow for 3 weeks. Would you notice any specific change over the course of that time? What if you mowed the lawn then went on vacation for 3 weeks? My point, is that sometimes, by being so close, you dont give any opportunity for your evolution to be felt by her. In fact, it may even stunt your growth.
