My wife was served with the divorce papers by my attorney.
Since walking out she had demanded a divorce and told me that our relationship was no longer healthy.
She already found a place (not telling me where) and once I started backing away and limiting my contact, the ultimatums started coming in. "We need to meet here, so we can discuss X", "I'm not paying any bills this month because I no longer live here", "I need access to the home from X to X time" or the most famous was "Sell everything by X date or I'm filing for divorce!"
Eventually I had enough of the games and just filed.
When I learned she was served I thought she would be thrilled, but instead she was livid. And then came to the home with friends and family intending to get "her half".
However, things did not work out that way. Once I presented a copy of my lawyer's name, number, and the filing I only limited her to get her clothing , any big ticket items were left alone. A lot of her personal items, that I carefully took the time to box up and organize, she rummaged through and left. When it was all done she left in a huff of anger and laughter.
For a woman who claimed to have left me because she feared for her life and found it hard to live with me, kept trying to take every opportunity to follow me around the home try to argue with me(how dare I file against her) and berate me.
Before she stormed out, I thanked her family for coming to help her and asked her friends to look after her.
The experience [censored], but I'm also thankful for it as well. I do not wish her any ill will. I love her dearly, but I also realize I have to save myself and keep to my principles of calmness and forgiveness.
I know it will get better and that miracles can happen. I have gone from dreading the next day to seeing what excitement and weird twist each day can bring.
