I will stand firm on not talking about OW. Once in a while my curiosity creeps up on me, but I have not done any snooping since 2 days in. I imagine that what I would learn would only hurt me more and I can't possibly bear anymore at this point.
After I found out about the affair, my W told me that she wanted to work on the marriage instead of leaving. So I insisted that she cut off contact with the OM, block his phone number and block his email address. I also insisted that she give me all her passwords, phone lock code, and turn on her Find My Phone so that there would be no question as to her whereabouts.
She complied, but it just made matters worse. I felt I was entitled to snoop because she had betrayed my trust and I did it constantly. It was like an addiction. I read her emails and txt messages and I constantly checked my phone to see where she was. It made me anxious and panicky and it made her resent me even more.
So I completely understand about the curiosity and the only advice I can offer is, don't do what I did. In this instance I don't think knowledge is power.
M46 W48 M11 T14 S11 D8 BD: 2016/05/27 In-home separation: 2016/11/23 Nesting: 2017/06/11 W moves out: 2018/01/07 W goes public with OM: 2018/07/12 I ask for a divorce: 2018/12/14
