Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 6)

[ForGump]

Sounds like very selective memory. I'm sure there were times when she was terribly annoyed at you -- but that's called a normal marriage. Not fair nor real to paint the whole marriage that way. You don't ... shag someone you can't stand.

Whether or not it saves your marriage, I think it *is* good for your W to think through these irrational thoughts and memories w/ someone. Since she's decided to blow up your marriage, she ought to countenance the whole carnage she's about to create with a clear view. Is it decided that you're not going back to MC?

When she gave these warped view of your marriage, what did you say? What did the counselor say?