Kudos Ginger. I don't do well with accepting imperfection. I can handle it on my own because I know how hard I strive, but I know it can lead to me resenting criticism from others.
Ha, I just noticed how I say I don't do well with this. Maybe I just don't accept imperfection perfectly enough. The fact is I'm doing much better, better than ever before, and probably good enough.
OK, then just to get it out there, just sent this email to my L. I'm pretty at peace with all of this, but I think it's worth the $25 fee for the email exchange to hear her reply. I'll let you know if I learn anything surprising, but in the end I plan on moving forward and continuing to let everything else go.
I've given a lot of thought to the erroneous deposits. My conclusion is that I would only want to address it if it would be a clear cut case, with no possible legal dispute. You know XW well enough to know that there would be no reasonable discussion. If the case is murky then it doesn't make sense to take it on, as this would just be incurring thousands in legal fees to sue someone with no money that is the mother of my children, all while creating a new level of animosity in an already tense situation. I don't need my children growing up with parents fighting in court, sicking lawyers on each other, and fighting over money. So unless it is something that is so black and white that I could just show it to a court and they'd shake their heads at her and immediately put a 12K lien on the property, I think I need to let this go. Do you agree with my assessment from a practical standpoint?
Also, I have been a bit alarmed by some comments XW has been making lately regarding parenting time. As you'll recall she was very opposed to the 5-2-2-5 parental schedule during the school year. Well, she continues to bring up how difficult this is for the children, how bad it is for them, how they are suffering because of it. I would even say she is doing things at times to make mountains out of molehills and sabotaging the exchange of children to make this unduly difficult on them in an attempt to 'build a case' to revisit this parental agreement. She continues to reference how we might need to 'revisit this', or how a 'change might be needed', etc. In just the last month she's brought this up maybe 3-4 times. My son has even told me he has overheard her saying how stupid this is, and that they should just live with her full time. Should I be concerned with this? Should I be documenting anything in particular? Is there anything I can do on my end beyond the obvious that would ensure that she has no reasonable way to take some type of action to try to alter the parental schedule? Or is this just not a worry, and I should just keep breathing and making sure everything on my end is handled impeccably?
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
