WW Wife - Do I confront her?

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Originally Posted By: Mr_Bam
She has all the power now. I also think that she has no respect for me after the begging and pleading. If I confront her, I will lay down the bottom line. I will lay down boundaries about the OM and my kids.

Boundaries are not used as a means to controll another person. It is used to protect your feelings. If you were weak in the MR and allowed her to disrespect you, then telling her now that you have certain boundaries, will not be taken very seriously without consequences. You are the only one who takes action if the boundary is broken. So, make sure you think it through and know what you will do if your boundary is not honored.


Is she living independently from your financial assistance?

I was not ever weak in the MR. She had my respect entirely. I was always the strong one and never showed any weakness at all. I was never controlling or abusive at all.

She is living independently financially. I buy things for the kids as needed and I have given her money if she has needed something specific for the kids. Our D10 had dance classes coming up and I gave her the money for it. I have been as helpful as I could be. But I thought I was dealing with a WAW and that was my approach. Now that I am dealing with a WW, I know that I need to take a very different approach. That is why I came here and proposed the question about confronting her.