WW Wife - Do I confront her?

[j20a00g]

I think that if you want to make sure to lose her forever, go ahead and confront.

You say no more pleading or begging - are you still doing that? Can't you stop that without confronting?

One of the things you learn on DB, is to not act impulsively, and to frequently not act at all. Do not act on feelings.

I am not begging or pleading at all. That happened 3 months ago. We have not had any R talks at all, so there would be nothing to beg or plead for. I will never do that again anyway. I know it drove her 100 mph in the opposite direction. It was a moment of weakness and an emotional breakdown.

I am not acting impulsively about any of it. I have been very calm and cool about everything for the last few months. I have just recently come to the A confirmation, so I feel that I am at a crossroads and do not know what to do.

It seems that almost everyone is in favor of me not confronting her. I think I just wanted to try and change SOMETHING. We are just in this friendly limbo and now I have the information about the A, so I am conflicted.

You can change something. Detach! This "friendly limbo" is because you are giving it to her. She's having this nice calm time with you and still making all the plans and arrangements to leave you. Take away the friendly limbo by detaching and acting as if and watch her change. That's when you will be tested.