I am confused tough why would she let me touch Her if she doesn't want to be with Me, this is torture but I cant help it its like an addiction...
Again if we are talking about your wife the best thing I can suggest is start reading the homework and DR to understand what is going on.
This stuff is counter intuitive so a beginners mind is a good start, if not you will think the answers are right in front of you when it is really the opposite.