Painter is right.... "act as if" meaning act as if you were divorced or she isn't a part of your life outside of co-parenting.

You are right. You are legally married and the law will honor all rights to you. This is legal paperwork and not morally binding. You have no legal right to ask anyone anything. Married or not.

It's super important that you read DB/DR and detach! If you want to have any chance at all you really need to change it up.


34, xw33
M-10, T-18
2D (8 and 5)
Ilybinilwy-1/16
EA/PA- 7/15-present (with my former best friend)
Trial apartment-2/16 (also when she considers us separated)
W moved out-8/16
W Filed 11/21/16
D final 1/30/17