Patience was meant to say your threads will post soon...but that in general it means to slow down, be in the moment, allow things to happen when they happen, avoid the urge to 'do' something to change things or get the outcome you want, and just breathe.
All but one here support not confronting. I get where TX Hubby is saying it looks weak, like you are 'tolerating disrespect'. But that would only be if you continued to pursue her, or to act like a married husband. There is nothing weak about walking away and leaving her to her own mess. I think it is weaker to stomp your feet and shout about something you can't do anything about and that she won't change. Just walk away and start rebuilding your own life.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15