WW Wife - Do I confront her?

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J20 - I know that I am going to get some serious 2x4's here and I expect them. Your scenario about how the confrontation would go is probably spot on.

I guess my thought process was that because I was still legally her husband, it is still my "right" to ask her to stop. It is not like walking up to a stranger and asking them to stop. Again, that was my thinking. I know that she is kind of like a stranger, but that is hard for me to understand. I know that detaching will make her actually seem like a stranger, I just have not reached that point yet.

So are you suggesting that I don't confront her at all and go completely dark (except for the kids)? Do I wait for the kids in the car in front of her house when we exchange them and don't talk to her at all? I have thought of doing this, but I guess I always thought that she would wonder why I would do that, just out out of the blue.

Again, I know 2x4's are coming. I can hear myself as I type some of this and I know how it must sound. I guess my thought was that I either continue on being friendly like we are or confront her and end the friendliness. I didn't really think of any other option.

Thanks for the input and I appreciate anything anyone has to offer.