WW Wife - Do I confront her?

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Thanks guys, I really appreciate all of the input.

I have been doing the 180's for me, but my wife has noticed because they have randomly come up in conversations. I have not told her anything that she has not asked me about. Then when I tell her, she has a surprised look on her face, but says nothing.

She has not been spewing for a few months now. Mainly because we have no R talks at all. So for now, that has been a good thing. I know that if I confront her, that might all change and she might start to lay it on me all over again.

I don't think she would deny it if I confronted her. I think she really thinks that she is single and already D'ed in her mind. I honestly don't think she would even consider it an A. Just moving on with life as a single person. That is just my opinion, but I might be wrong.

I have been implementing most of the DB principles and I focus on doing them for me and my kids. But I will admit, I have not detached from her at all. I am also not pursuing, but she does not show any signs of being worried about losing me. Detaching will be the hardest part of this process for me.

The only reason that I would consider confronting her is to take back some of the power that she has. Maybe get some respect back by laying down my boundaries. Get tough with her and let her know where I stand now. No more begging or pleading. This is now my choice and I am walking away from her. Let her know that I will not be a part of her life in any form if she continues to choose OM over me and our family.

I think I will hold off on any confrontation for now, but I would really like for some additional input from you guys and any others.

One more thing...wanna make an impact? SHOW her you don't advocate her behavior by detaching. And get it out of your head that there is even a remote possibility that you won't be a part of her life in "any form". You have kids together. You always will be.

If you really want to get some respect, act as if. Detach. Show her that you will be great without her. Don't tell her.