WW Wife - Do I confront her?

[PacLove]

I debated the same thing, and while it felt good to let her know "I knew" it really didn't do much to help the M - if anything it created more friction between us and further dampened the chance for R as now it's one more hurdle she's got to get past and talk to me about (she'd have to do it anyways, but her knowing that I know puts reality to it as opposed to her potentially thinking she could hide it if she came back).

In retrospect I probably wish I had saved that conversation to a future date if she comes back.

On the other hand if you are going to talk to her - then you need to plan full exposure if she doesn't end it, which I'm not an advocate of.