As you point out, you are already separated, so all you can do is ask, and asking makes you look weak.
And weak is not attractive.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16