Good suggestion and as assertiveness is something I am working towards as part of my desired traits, I will definitely look into it. I prefer to do a course but if not anyone any online suggestions.

Best wishes

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together