Yep - that's a kick in the gut. I've been fortunate that that's only happened to me once. I changed my route and then W moved.
You'll recover in time. I did and so has everyone else.
What helps me sometimes is (other than re-reading everything that job has ever written to me) is to remind myself that my W isn't well and that that is a big part of the life choices that she has been making.
We had a man who went by the alias of Jack_3_Beans who I was priviliged to know through this forum and through his words of kindness, wisdom, and occasionally "wake the f@ck up you idiot" that he would write to me. If you haven't read this I suggest you do so. I re-read it again today for the "I really don't know how many"th time http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2701017#Post2701017
Sadly we lost Jack recently but his words and message live on in his writings and in the hearts of those like me that he touched.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
