There are other examples. I have let W know about this undermining my authority as father. Her butting in shows kids she rules the nest. I have always been open to her advice and opinions on parenting. I am just not open to doing so in front of the children. Am I over reacting. Regardless it is something that I have voiced several times, so that triggers me most.
No, you are not over reacting!
We train people on how they can treat us. It’s up to you to change this dynamic you dislike. Voicing it directly several times didn’t work, so I’d not go there again.
A training course (or other materials) on how to constructively be assertive likely would help you... it did me. It'll teach you how to properly go about getting the respect you deserve.
My local community college had a wonderful, several week long, online course that was both effective and fun. Plenty of students interacting with the instructor and each other.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
