People in MLC do not act rational and/or normal because they are emotionally charged and many of they do not think that they have any issues w/depression once they've begun replay. You are dealing w/a man child who is thinking like a teenager which means they think that they will not have anything wrong w/themselves for a while.
The holidays are something that we touch on every year around this time. So, if you would normally do one for your h, then it's up to you to decide whether to do the calendar or not. As for the gift giving, I would purchase something that isn't too personal and put it in the children's names. I would also purchase something that you from you and if he doesn't give you anything, then return it to the store...but sometimes, they do purchase things for the LBS. Again, this is something you have to decide, but if you do something for him, do it in the spirit of the holiday and don't be too disappointed if he doesn't do anything for you, i.e., in other words, keep your expectations at zero.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
