Zues, you know your wife, but is it possible that she just didn't realize?

Is she the sort to balance her check book and have a budget? Or does she have a more relaxed approach?

This could easily happen to me without me realizing it.

Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16