Am I in withdrawal ... will he ever wake up

[Lana_71]

Hi Job
I know you are right I really need to let go and face my fears . I am already taking care of everything . I guess at this moment he is in a state we can't help and he needs to help himself. It feels weird that someone takes a sabbatical 3 years on his family. Iknow I tried my best to make him feel wanted wether it is wrong or not I am ok with that cause I feelgoodvabout me . Even infront of my kids they know their mom worked hard to get us together. These years were great for me my relation with my kids got stronger and I am so proud of them being able to deal with the move and their father distance in a great way. I also worked on my self and took some course . I went with friends went for walks. I didnot share my status with any just that we have some issues and he has financial issues need to overcome. Now I relocated my family back to my parents house . I have always been blessed with a great family who will always support me. When we had our problems he always said that I have a better family than his .yes I am proud to have a close family and I believe his family is also good but somehow he always felt a bit inferior . One of his issues that I always find a way to survive .he says things come to me easily but he has to struggle to succeed . Anyway I guess I can't change his way of thinking nor can I make him feel better about himself in a good way . I can't fix what I didnot break. Thank you for listening and your great advice .