There are several different disorders in the DSM and it takes an expert to diagnose them. So unless a proper diagnosis has been made it isn't useful to label.
I believe it's best to stick to behaviour rather than labelling.
If the behaviour is abusive then the tag fits fine.
Zelda and Vanilla (moi) set up the abuse thread to help those of us who sensed we were in an abusive sitch.
What is described is called the sweet cycle. And the specific behaviour is referred to as 'hoovering'.
Several problems such as bipolar disorder, depression and mania are physiological rather than psychological but have behavioural effects. In the same way dementia and schizophrenia do.
Others are personality disorders.
They include psychopathy now anti social personality disorder (no feelings)
Sociopathy the overbearing need for connection and social validation.
Narcissism which has spectrums, healthy, over conscious and impeding. The need for constant affirmation and seeing others as an extension of self. A certain degree of narc is healthy, a lack of self interest is just as bad as too much.
Borderline, swinging from loving you to hating you. When their needs are not met. Not seeing you as separate.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
