I suggest that you retain your own lawyer to ensure that everything is up to par. Also, you want to review the documents as well as your own lawyer. Just because she wants to avoid a hearing, doesn't necessarily make the divorce equitable. It's nothing more than a business deal that has gone south right now. Even though a divorce may happen, it's just a piece of paper and yes, some day you may reconcile w/her. For now, she needs the divorce and she thinks it will make her happy and that she'll be free to do whatever she wants w/o you looking over your shoulder and watching her. She's in for a rude awakening because nothing will change drastically for her. Sure, she'll be euphoric for a bit, but once the excitement wears off, it's back to doing what she's been doing for quite some time.

You don't know what the future holds. You might reconcile, you may discover that life is better than focusing on her and her actions and you may even meet someone new. The future is up in the air at this point in time. Whatever happens, the divorce will put you on the path of moving forward and getting on w/your life.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.