But, thru all of this I'm not "MAD", I'm just crushed and feel like a shell of a man.
Completely understandable. But can you see how your wife knowing and seeing this makes you even less attractive to her? That's why you have to fake it 'til you make it. Eventually you WILL make it. Yes, it is extremely difficult, but you can do it. You want her, sure, but you don't need her. <<<Getting here actually gives your M the best chance.
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I guess I was too much of the Mr. Nice Guy for her liking.
Don't waste too much time blaming yourself for her crisis. It would have happened no matter what you did or didn't do. It's about her, not you or the marriage.
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My W makes some great pancakes too and I surely miss them...I'm a breakfast any time kind of guy.
Ok, so now it's time to learn how to make better pancakes! mmmm, pancakes.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
