Well, no surprise that she would want to be friends. This way she would not have to live with the guilt of what she has done. Don't be so available to her. Try dropping the kids off, not going in and see what happens. If she texts you soon after (when you didn't go in), don't answer for the day. You deserve better than to perpetually be on call for her. You don't work for an escort service.

My h wanted things, too. He wanted to live at home, eat dinner with us and sleep at home. Except on Saturday nights he wanted to sleep around at a rented apartment. Then he wanted to return home before the kids woke up Sunday, pretend he'd been home all night (what a phony!) and then eat breakfast with us!

Can you imagine me sitting there cooking him pancakes after he'd had a romp in the hay with some tramp!!! Point is: they try to take what they can and what you let them take.

By the way, how come you're not angry? Or are you?

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced