She moved out...now the work begins...II

[SBJ]

HaWho...thanks for the response. I know that we all love our significant others and that is why it is so hard for me to detach from her.

I will definitely work on the detaching thing...I want to get thru this, but this is harder than I imagined.

As for the polar opposite thing is concerned...it's not as if her place is totally bad, it's just not the same as the home she has spent the last 11 years building with me and for our family. I want to try and preserve that for our kids and possibly for her should she come out of the fog in the future.

I think you are right about just showing her that we cannot be friends...although she has this in her head that that is what she wants. I do not think that I could just be friends without wanting to have more with her.

Also on the opposite front...I know it has been less than a week, but I feel that I have become a bit OCD in my home. She and I had an unwritten agreement that I'd cook and she'd clean, I'd shop and she'd do the laundry, I'd bath the kids and she'd help with homework...then I'd do all of the yard work and such. Having to do it all is alot of work and I have had to make sure that it gets done right away. It is alot for a single parent to do, but it is possible.