Quick question...she has moved out of the house, so when she wants to see the kids is it ok for her to come there, or should I be meeting her at a neutral site?
There is no right or wrong answers here, you know her better than we do, what do YOU want to happen?
The only other advice I can give you is that whatever you set up now could follow along in any divorce proceedings. So be sure to stand up for yourself and do what you want, dont do something because you think it will bring her back or make it easier to reconcile.
I don't want to punish her or the kids for what she is done...the truth is I don't have a lot of anger towards her (of course, she also denies any infidelity of any kind but refuses to provide any proof to the contrary in the face of how bad it looks and that little bit of me not being sure one way or the other keeps the true anger at bay).
What does scare me is she is acting erratically. Unsafe driving, running at night, staying out late, hanging out with losers I wouldn't want my children around, maybe even drinking and driving...and that is just what I know of. So I don't feel 100% confident in leaving young children in her care for extended periods of time. I'd like to be there when she visits, but that in turn makes GAL and detaching a million times more difficult, so I am torn.
