Your h thinks the world revolves around him. When they leave, the spouse, children, pets, etc. are all but forgotten. In his mind, everyone is fine and dandy w/him walking out the door and not staying in contact. It's all part of the depression/MLC. You are trying to make rational out of irrational/emotional thinking.
Right now, it doesn't matter to him how happy he was in the marriage and with his family. Doing things together pre-crisis doesn't matter to him because in his mind he's been a very unhappy camper for a long time. You know how the marriage and family life was...so put those happy memories in a box and store them on a shelf in the closet. Bring that box of memories out when you feel down. Don't allow him to serve up the Kool-Aid that they life to serve up every now and then. You know what was real and what wasn't.
I suggest that you read up on depression. It can really serve up some whammies when it comes to memory and how people feel. Depression affects men and women differently. Depression is the main ingredient of MLC and you will see and hear things that do not make a whole lot of sense to you...but to him they do.
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
