Why does it hurt when I do something nice for her.
She just sent a text asking if I get a discount on a certain model vehicle. She said she needs to get one asap.
I replied that I sent her the discount code 3 months ago.
She said I did not explain why? She then thanked me.
So that's why you are so nit picky with her. Because you say it hurts to do something nice for her.
So you feel like if you give her a harder time it will make you feel better? I don't think it really does. it will certainly make your life more difficult. I don't think you really want that.
It hurts you to do something "nice" because you want it reciprocated and appreciated, but in a way that isn't possible.
So you can refrain your doing something nice for HER to doing something nice for your KIDS.
And if something you don't want to do that won't impact the kids at all, then it's your choice not to do it.
But the push back on simple tasks is hurting you more than it's hurting her.
You are still extremely emotionally attached. This will become clearer as you detach. But try taking your feelings out of your decisions and actions and see what happens.
just so you know, giving a discount that you can easily give with no cost to you on a car that your children will be passengers in will become a simple gesture that won't effect your emotions one day
