Am I in withdrawal ... will he ever wake up

[Lana_71]

For the record I have gone dark multiple times before but it never worked after 2-3 weeks I would be always the one to reestablish contact . Not that he object actually he welcome for a while then start distancing again saying he is busy. Now after 2.5 years of this I believe nothing will change and he is not willing to put effort in just maintaining a civil connection with me a kids. He knows my fear from divorce but now maybe I need to face my fears. As I can see nothing will work if he keep subbotaging my efforts . It's like he wants me to give up and ask for divorce. Although he never suggested that but all his actions says he wants me to take the decision by being passive aggressive . I told him more about Han once that I care he is fine doing well regardless if we go back together or not. I am not a vindictive person and for my kids sake having a good father is important but I guess if I was the nasty wife stopping him from talking to his kids he would have been fighting me all the time to see them now I guess he doesnot care if we are well or not as if he is not responsible for any. Do you think going dark and no initiate contact even if this never happened worked before?