Just the pep talk I needed right now, Job, thank you so much! My middle son just met WAH for 20 min to discuss jobs...S22 is job hunting atm. Didn't get any useful info about job but H told him that he felt he was in touch the children same as before he ran away so it hasn't changed his relationship with them????...I cannot understand how he can even think that..he used to be so involved with their lives, spent all the holidays with them, was on the phone with them at least once a week when they were away at uni. Since he has walked out 7 months ago he has seen D20 once for 30 min, S22 fours for 20min at a time and S26 once or twice a month for 15-20 at a time. What is wrong with his memory? Does he not remember how important they were to him and vice versa? We did so much together as a family...