Hugs to you this morning. Talking to him will not help to settle your emotions/feelings. You are hurting and disappointed w/what is happening right now. If you need to cry, then cry. Tears help us to heal too. I remember so well having this feeling of needing to talk to my xh about everything. I can honestly say, it didn't go well and I was hurt even more so by doing so because he continued to lash out and still wanted to remain separated and a divorce.
Come here to vent, talk or just to say "hey". I do not think your h is ready to talk to you about the relationship. I am glad that you are no longer paying his gym membership, but they do like to remind us in some ways that they are cutting ties w/us, i.e., by telling us that they are canceling this or that. Please do not take it personally. He is following the path of many others and they think by doing such things that it will erase us from their lives...it doesn't.
Take a deep breath! Give him time to do what he needs to do and you will have another chance to touch base w/him the weeks ahead...after all the holidays are coming and you'll want to wish him well when they arrive. For now, just leave him be. Take yourself out for a coffee later. Stay positive! At least he's not acting like a mean monster (like some of them turn into).
Take care.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
