Why not let him know this week does not suit you. Maybe do so by text so you are not obliged to reply for next week. These interactions are weighing on you. Understandably so. You wonder if you are on the brink of a turnaround.
If you are putting off your meeting won't change that. He will come back for another time. I think you should take a little time to settle your thoughts.Plus it'll do no harm to not be available. May even help him review things.
Your daughter has not walked your shoes. It is more difficult than she could imagine. Don't beat yourself up but it is good to realise you are not as positive as you could be. What steps can you take to improve that?
Best wishes
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
I agree w/roist. If you aren't in the right frame of mind to meet him for coffee, then text him this morning and just say that something has come up and you won't be able to meet up w/him for coffee this week. Keep if very short, sweet and simple. That will allow the door to be left ajar for him to invite you again in the near future.
When you think positive, many doors will begin to open. The world will look a whole lot better and your frame of mind will even be happier. You've allowed your h to invade your thoughts entirely too much and he's not even paying rent for the space at the moment...put your focus back on you and your family.
What are your plans for Veterans Day and Thanksgiving?
BTW, it's time to start a new thread.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks Roist. I don't know what to think at the moment but what I do know is I don't think he has made enough effort to show that there might be a turnaround in our sitch. It's just so bloomin frustrating!
I had a really good cry in the shower this morning just thinking that he has placed me at the bottom of the heap in his life. He even told me last time we met how he had contacted some old work acquaintances to meet up. Maybe that's what I am to him now but even lower than them. That's what it feels like.
Why can't I just forget about him and treat him the same way he is treating me? It makes me so mad I just want to scream at him sometimes!
