I agree w/roist. If you aren't in the right frame of mind to meet him for coffee, then text him this morning and just say that something has come up and you won't be able to meet up w/him for coffee this week. Keep if very short, sweet and simple. That will allow the door to be left ajar for him to invite you again in the near future.
When you think positive, many doors will begin to open. The world will look a whole lot better and your frame of mind will even be happier. You've allowed your h to invade your thoughts entirely too much and he's not even paying rent for the space at the moment...put your focus back on you and your family.
What are your plans for Veterans Day and Thanksgiving?
BTW, it's time to start a new thread.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
