I think you did well with the Anniversary planning and gifts, roast. That W gave you a kiss says it all.

I was fairly active on FB in a DB group, (I don't FB real life family or friends) but activity there has dwindled down the past year or two, so now I only check in every couple weeks or so.

Originally Posted By: roist
What do you mean by ask for stuff? What kind of stuff? Bl0w job is often on the tip of my tongue if she asks if I want anything!!! cool
She will help me if I ask. She will do stuff for me if asked. Please develop your thinking on this for me.


I just wanted to make sure you're not walking around on eggshells, or afraid to say things or ask for things. Asking for things is a great way to GET things!

You can ask for anything, and shouldn't be afraid to do so. Just remember to keep your expectations in line. And it goes without saying that there's no pouting if she should refuse a request.

Connection to me means being a team. Doing things for "The Team" and each other. Having each others back. Being able to open up and discuss stuff. That your wife seems to be at least partially on board (or more) is a good sign!

What, specifically, are you seeking when you mentioned your desire for a better connection with W? What, in your opinion, is missing?


Last edited by job; 11/09/16 05:45 AM. Reason: Removed FB (profile name)
M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl