Hi vge! So glad you are doing well! Although I'm not around here often, my thoughts sometimes drift to you and I wonder how you are.
I just want to say that one of the best gifts I gave myself was not responding. I found as things changed, I would make a proclamation, of sorts, and go as dark as the night. It took me some time to get used to not responding. And it would push xh into an agitated state, but it helped me in many ways. For example, it helped me take control of myself and my emotions and i no longer freaked out when i heard from him bc i was in control of me. More importantly, i stopped feeding his narcissistic ego, which changed the dynamic completely. I realized his concerns and questions really were meaningless and didn't require an answer. Even by law.
Just please think carefully about what you really even need to say to him and if it actually even requires a response. A huge part of this is him thinking he is better, superior, and has the upper hand. Give that nonsense the attention it deserves- none. You may find a shift in things, including yourself. My apologies if people disagree or if im stepping out of line, especially since im not up to date. All my best, vge...
