where to begin or end?

[j20a00g]

I had my faults. We slipped into a slump, a while back with kids n daycare, our dynamic changed but we didnt address our new needs. I took her for granted and flirted with others as a source of validation when i felt unloved by her. I wasnt the family/housekeeper man, i was the good career bread winner. I know ive got work to do, i have to make sure my changes are ones that i can keep permanent.

On the other side, OM likes his freedom, didnt want kids with his wife of 10yrs, drinks and is occasional drug user with a part time job and now mostly stays with his parents since his wife kicked him out.

Don't try to compare or compete with the OM. Don't worry about what he does or doesn't do or what she does or isn't doing (besides that which directly could hurt the kids). You need to focus on you first. That's it. Doesn't matter if he's doing lines of coke off of her it's not your business. Detach.