It's happening

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I have been on this site since March, when I discovered my wife's affairs. After much struggle and careful thought I filed for D. The communications have been minimal, and she at first thought she could navigate this without an attorney, but again I just never received a response from her when I needed so it has been slow and painful. However I just learned that she has obtained a L, which is actually good! Things need to get moving. I think her head came out of the clouds a bit, realizing that this is actually happening. I miss her and love her very much but seeing her reaction to my filing for D let me know that I did the right thing. She was almost relieved, I think for her she has been wanting this off and on for quite some time, only judging from her multiple affairs and attempts to have A's over the last 10 years or more. So here we go! The final date is January 25th. Life is wierd, but oh well, I can hold tight until then, when I know what the financial outcome will be. Then I can begin to plan and rebuild, I have been in some sort of limbo for so long. This final limbo is much easier to stomach than that of not knowing if she will choose me or not. It was heartbreaking but I know now that life does move forward. I love myself and my S13. She is contesting the financial stuff but we have come to a full agreement on the parenting plan which to me is a huge step.