The cliff at the top of the mountain.

[DonH]

Just so I'm clear, I'm NOT saying it is you (or me) it may be, it may not be. I just always try to avoid blocking out the fact that it could be something I'm doing to contribute - right or wrong good or bad. I'm picky so that's on me. I for sure would go on way more dates if I were less picky. I'm just saying we both need to be open to what or how we may contribute to things.

I think you are very much on the right track with chill the F out. I'm positive that the less interested I was in someone or the more laid back about them I was, the better the R went in the early weeks and months. I was a great DBr before I even knew what it was! I was just living. I had total confidence and dated as much as I wanted to. Since D I fear I struggle more to do it now that I know what I should be doing! I've lost that confidence and feel more "desperate" or at least wanting. I really want some dating success. Sound familiar?

I don't know what to say about the plumber. Your senses maybe right on. I can't tell from halfway across the country. I just know you can't go wrong telling him what you want, and teaching him and any future guys how to treat you.

One last question and thought. Has he been a guy you would date again in person? Is it only on text that he's a guy you Have concerns about? What about on the phone? Is he just blowing it with you over text? If so I'd rather date someone who's a great date in person than great on text and a dud in person. You can work on his texting skills way easier than his in person skills.