There was a facebook post by a guy named Billy Flynn a few weeks back that went viral across the internet. My partner asked me my opinion of it.

As background, this is the gist of the post:
This guy (maybe mid 30s?) has two young sons and has been divorced for a short time. I dont know all of the details of the breakup or their relationship; those werent posted. Anyway, he posted that he had gotten up early for his XW's birthday to take his boys to bring flowers and a gift and prepare breakfast for her in her house. When questioned, he replied that he was raising two men and he wants to set a good example for them in how they relate with women in the future.

My partner's opinion is that this is an incredibly thoughtful gesture. That these actions should be celebrated as model for how to teach young men to treat the women in their lives.

I said that I couldnt disagree with this more. In my opinion, the proper way to treat the mother of these children would have been to stay married to her. In my opinion, there are three scenarios:

1) She pushed for the divorce - in this case I feel that he is using his kids as a way to remain in her life. He's being a doormat and a pursuer and those arent traits he should be teaching his boys.

2) He pushed for the divorce - in this case, I feel bad for this woman. He wanted to be away from her so badly that he divorced her and yet he wont actually leave her alone. From the tone of his post, it doesnt sound like this is the case though.

3) They 'mutually' decided to divorce. I hate this the most. If they still have a relationship where she feels comfortable with him coming in to her home and cooking breakfast, then they never should have gotten divorced in the first place. Its an incredibly selfish act and teaches the children all the wrong things about relationships.

Overall, I felt it was a horrible message to send. In my opinion, there should be no such thing as an 'amicable' divorce when kids are involved. If there is enough good feelings to divorce amicably, then the people should be putting the effort in to repair the marriage. Its so frustrating to me how easy it is to get married and to get divorced and stories like this help reinforce that divorce is 'easy' and 'friendly' and 'good for everyone'. I found it disgusting.

Wonder if anyone else saw this and had any reaction to it?