Yep, the little boy has come out to play and he sees you as his mother and him as the child. I wouldn't get into it w/him. I would just say whatever you wish to do is fine by me and if you wish to discuss it further, we can do it over a cup of coffee or a snack. Then let it be. It tells him that you are open to speak orally w/him. Sometimes we have to make a move to get them to move an inch.
These text message deals need to be stopped. You both are living under the same roof and he needs to be speaking to you directly in person about this stuff. Texting is a PA move on his part so that he doesn't have to deal w/you face to face and you don't have the opportunity to challenge and/or dispute his nonsense. Time to do a 180 and not respond to all of his texts and when he cries about you not responding, advise him that you are available to speak to him directly about the issues and will be happy to do so in person, not via text, telephone or email.
HaWho...time to do a little testing in the old MLC Lab. Time to try something different and help him move an inch.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
