Reconciliation is the hardest part of the journey for both of you. You both have changed and grown. You and your xh need to take things very slowly here. Start out as friends and work up to being more than that. Don't rush the process or one of you may walk away and detach even more. It's going to be a one step forward, two steps back for a while. He needs to learn how to live in his own skin and right now...he's fragile. Allow him to come to you and above all else...keep those expectations at zero. You can't go back to the old marriage/relationship because it's dead. A new one needs to blossom and hopefully when it's in full bloom, the two of you can reconcile and move forward w/your lives as a couple.
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
