wife is going through withdrawal

[MJTT]

Just a quick update. The other night we talked again about how the EA happened and what we could've done differently. She expressed she felt so much pain for hurting me. I just sat next to her and looked her in the eyes and listened without judging her and I basically agreed with what she said about the failures from the both of us in our M. She wanted to hold me and I comforted her as she kept saying how sorry she was. I gave her a kiss on the cheek and told her that we would make it and come out stronger if we both work at it. She kissed me (on the lips) and one thing led to another we ended up having passionate sex. She still has not told me she loved me yet and I haven't told her either. I've learned that her recovery has its own timeline and not on mine. Since that night we made love (Sunday) she has been very caring and blushes when I "accidentally" brush her arm around the house. I think we are progressing quite well. We started a watching a new show, cooking together and spent time with one another without expecting too much (per Sandi & Cadet's advice). It basically feels like we're dating all over again and I have to admit the butterflies are in my stomach when we do these things. I still think about the EA alot but I try not to let it consume me and my quest to saving my M.

Bigbiz - This forum has helped me understand what to expect and made me realize that I was being too selfish in wanting my W to "speed up" her recovery for me. I hope your situation improves. There was a time when I thought my M was over but just hang in there.