Vey detached, no longer anxious, in limbo

[Sotto]

Hi Phoebe, glad to see a post from you. I think you are right to insist on the disclosure. I had the same thing with XH. He had a range of businesses and said there was no money in them and he hoped we would accept that. We didn't and pressed for full disclosure of all assets.

Now, actually there wasn't much in the way of money in them. But I do have peace of mind that we went through due process. If we hadn't, I would always have wondered if he had a few £100k squirrelled away and the wool had been pulled over etc.

That's just how this process works - disclosure - information exchange - settlement negotiation. The thing is, so many WAS's/MLCers just want to jump to the last stage and be done with it all (and normally settle in their favour too.)

You're doing well. At some point you will get to the other side of this and feel greatly relieved to have your own funds and assets that have no connection to your H. I would encourage you in your circumstances to seek a 'clean break.'

Xx