Hi Pink, good to hear from you. From all that you post, there are clearly some strong bonds between you and your XH...apart from that, two things stand out for me:

He says he is a broken man and he wants to be friends (ie: not in a R just now.)

So, is he taking some constructive steps to address the brokenness? I don't think you need to make a choice about 'taking him back' at this stage. From all that you posted, that sounds like a much longer term thing.

To me, the only choice for now is - do I allow some room in my life for his friendship, and for him to have a little more involvement in my life?

I wouldn't make any sudden moves and I would continue on with your own plans. And if you choose to spend time with him, maintain some friendship boundaries for the time being....and maintain low expectations. Only time will tell how this will unfold and (given all circumstances) I think consistency over time and forward progress are the key things.

Good luck with everything Sweetie xx

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