These are all mutually excclusive. I think you caneed love and not forgive, love and not trust.
Clearly we can trust without love. It isn't an all or nothing choice, you can trust on one thing and not on another.
Love is a choice.
Is forgiveness a choice? Forgiveness is different it is an action.
To forgive I believe we have to amend our belief system. They say to err is human to forgive devine. I belive this, our higher power forgives. It is its job not mine.
I don't think it's necessary to forgive your reformed WH. Maybe he hasn't atoned in the way you need. Perhaps you need more from him?
Sometimes waywards atone in the way that suits them. It has to be to suit you, satisfy you.
Then let it go cleanse and ritualise.
You may never trust wholly again. Once bitten as they say.
All of that is ok.
You can love and you do.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
