Not as sad-Part 2

[Molly22]

An online calendar would be great if someone has a suggestion. It would definitely make it easier.

Thanks so much , Vanilla.

I have read the threads on detaching, 180, LRT, and going dark over and over. I read Sandi's rules every morning. I can physically detach. I haven't seen him for week. I take a different route to work so not to pass by his work. I am no longer friends with him on FB and I have gotten rid of any apps that tied us together. I just can't seem to emotionally detach. im still thinking about him and wanting him to come home even though I *know* I need to let go of the outcome.

It's anwork in progress. I wish I was on the fast track rather than in the slow lane.

[AndrewP]

Google Calendar included with a GMail account is shareable and accessible via multiple devices etc.

[Vanilla]

Being on any track is just fine.

As isoon being sidelined and parked up to refueL and clean.

The little train that kept on going.

You have time my lovely one.

Good for you.

V

[Molly22]

Nothing really new to report today. I set up the calendar which should help. Thanks for the suggestion and recommendation. I received a couple of texts after putting things in the calendar. One said, "dating?" and the next, "I miss us.". I let it go but don't know that I should have.

I am finding GAL hard to do because I work too much and don't have much in the way of respite care for my Special Needs DD. By the time I get home, make dinner, and do what she needs, its bedtime for her. I do have my support group tomorrow and I made a plan to go for coffee after. I am trying to practice good self care by doing pampering things for myself. I do lots of things with DD. I feel like I rarely talk to other adults and am feeling kind of lonely.

Thoughts?

[trumpet]

Molly,

If you were near Madison, I'd come over and keep you company! We could play a heated game of euchre, or maybe a sinister game of cribbage or two.

Hang in there. You have some amazing vets pulling for you!

[Vanilla]

Honey

You do need respite and that can be factored into your calender.

So now as trumpet says, how do we get that fitted in to the calender. Clearly recharging your batteries is vital.

Can I suggest you prioritise you? Just for a little bit.

Re the comments

'Dating?'

Can we see how the schedules go and you can include this with suggestions. This is going to help us.

'I miss us'

What a lovely thing to say. Thank you.

Just musing for you

V

[J5K]

Molly,

You are doing great! Baby steps...the emotional detaching takes time. We all wish we could do it with a snap of our fingers, unfortunately that is not the case.

When we fall in love we tend to be dependent on our S over time, and when we get the BD from the S the emotions and dependency hit us like a freight train and we hurt for a long time.

Pamper yourself and don't worry about your H. Make yourself feel good and always look great. The advice and suggestions are all for you and if that ends up attracting your H back to you that is the bonus!

Hang in there Molly!

[Molly22]

I don't feel like I am doing great today. DD is sick and one of my dogs is very ill. Had to miss work but I don't get paid sick time. I know this is about me and not him but it infuriates me that I am cleaning up dog and kid puke and doing all the things that have to be done and he's playing single and doing whatever it is he is doing. ARGHHHHHHHHH!

[Molly22]

Made it through the day. I cried a fair bit today. WS sent me a few anti-marriage texts today which I, unfortunately, responded to when I shouldn't have. The good thing is that I realized it and stopped.

I bought myself a new shirt tonight and dressed up nicely for my support group tonight. I felt like myself. The group was good and three different people offered to help me put up my Xmas lights this weekend. I am usually a loner and I don't like to ask for help so having three people offer and feeling that sense of kinship, was a new thing. Plus I went out for coffee with a friend afterward.

I know WS is wondering where I was and has made a couple of comments. I am so far ignoring and not being reassuring. Is that the right thing?

[j20a00g]

Absolutely. It's none of his business. He can ask all he wants but you don't answer to him. Let his mind race like he's made yours. Great job on getting out and focusing on you